Nancy Lanza Feared Son Adam Was “Getting Worse” – Was Burning Himself With a Lighter

Nancy Lanza feared she was losing her son Adam before he shot her dead on Friday.

Murderer: Adam Lanza, killed himself after murdering more than two dozen others, including 20 school children. (Daily Mail)

The days leading up to Friday’s bloody school massacre, Nancy Lanza feared her son was getting worse. He was burning himself with a lighter.
the New York Daily News reported:

Less than a week before her son would launch his horrifying attack on Sandy Hook Elementary School, gun-loving mom Nancy Lanza knew “she was losing him” and that “he was getting worse.”

A drinking buddy of Lanza told The Daily News that her son Adam had long been troubled and rarely came up in conversation.

“She just looked down at the glass and said, ‘I don’t know. I’m worried I’m losing him,’” said the bar pal, who did not wish to be named, of the ominous conversation at the bar My Place in Newtown, Conn.

“She said it was getting worse. She was having trouble reaching him.”

Adam, who the coroner’s office said Sunday shot Nancy Lanza, 54, several times in the head before unleashing a nightmarish attack that killed 20 schoolchildren and six others Friday, was prone to hurting himself, the drinking buddy said.

“Nancy told me he was burning himself with a lighter. In the ankles or arms or something,” he recalled of a conversation they had about a year ago. “It was like he was trying to feel something.”

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  • bigkahuna

    I would say a variety of things have changed in society. Liberals want guns banned but ignore many of the real problems.

    1. Fewer people attend church of any sort and removing it from the public school, square etc. again just one part of a complicated issue.

    2. Break up of family. 46% Divorce rates in the US and higher among African Americans and poor people as a whole. Far too many kids having kids and far to many fathers who are not involved in those kids lives of all races.

    3. Welfare of all sorts have made being lazy, stupid and dependent no longer looked at as bad or embarrassing but accepted and a away of life. Free stuff for anyone because they breathe.

    4. Drugs: pot, coke, meth and others are glorified, and few learn from high profile deaths and believe they can handle it.

    5. Strength of those drugs and their addiction capacity is much higher.

    6. Schools spend more time teaching political correct issues, green junk science etc rather than personal responsibility, manners, self reliance and common sense.

    7. Social media, internet, mass media and instant news make these kids household names and in a sick way almost glorify their sick deeds and actions. It also shows other sick/ mentally deficient kids what others are doing and more easily show them how they can copy or emmulate them.

    8. Culture: Movies and TV have more blood, guts, gore and vilolence than ever. Stallone, Arnold and others show hundreds being killed in a 90 minute movie or hour long cop series. They are much more graphic than ever. Movies like Kill Bill and Die Hard and many many other make hollywood movie makers and actors rich beyond belief. Notice they mostly have guns as well asarmed protection or armed guards. Same goes for our idiot politicians who break more laws and are more immoral in many cases than the average citizen. No budgets and spending trillions in debt for instance show bad examples of how to live life.

    9. Rap music continues to glorify violence against cops, women and others. They get filthy rich doing it with little or no real talent or real work put into it. This week saw Michelle Malkin threatenedd with violence and extremely graphic, vulgar tweets by supporters of rap star The Game ????? ( never heard of the idiot)

    10 Athletes who are often times dumber than mud fences get rich and glorified and then are rarely held accountable by others when they shoot, kill, use drugs, drive drunk etc etc etc and if they go to jail are hired again and paid big money. In urban cultures the more criminal behavior the more street cred they have and more money they make.

    11. Violent video games have exploded literally. Call of Duty and others basically have the main goal of blowing away as many as possible in a short time in graphic, realistic virtual reality typ games. These are more than likely in every mass murderers history. They blurr the reality and desensitize those kids who are emotionally immature, damaged, stunted or just plain ill or evil. They always seem to be some young guy who cant seem to handle or process his emotions, dillusions,
    bullying, teasing, physical differences in body type, or perceived attractiveness or coolness.

    12. Mental illness clinics and hospitals have had cuts in funding and put more people on the street or never get them the help at all. Again many of these mass killers are first time offenders who never have shown any real signs that say hey Im gonna kill alot of people except where they have posted online without revealing who or wear they are and unseen until after they have done so.

    13. Most are suicidal in some way and are more often seeing others doing these things on tv/ news etc and are seeing this as an acceptible way of going out.

    14. Schools and other public areas are no gun zones and there is rarely any deterrent or answer to stopping this in the few minutes it takes for them to do their damage. Most have taken 10-20 minutes and thats before the police could ever respond.

    15. Lack of training in schools on how to respond. Columbine teacher put kids in the GLASS enclosed library where they were visible for the two insane kids to see and target instead of going into a closed more secluded office.

    16. Little, none or unarmed security…AKA the guy who runs away from an armed intruder with the others. If 2-5 of those priciples, teachers etc had had a CCW they may have been able to save or even deter these kids from going there.

    Schools are poorly secured( not surprisingly)

    18. We blame guns and the NRA but few if any of these kids are NRA members, trained, or interested in following the laws already in place.

    19. Every one of these kids is Young, emotionally whacked, unable to handle his feelings and rarely reported to authorities as being a potential danger to himself or others. They are socially awkward, teased, bullied, austracised, a loner with few if any close friends, many on some psycho type drug or drugs etc. Rarely are they older men who have gotten past the lunacy that is youth for some kids. They have no real job or religious or politicall beliefs. They are rarely popular, may feel unattractive, and areoften from a broken home and have parents who are more worried about their divorce and its issues than they are about their kids and their welfare.

    20. The vast majority of other murders in which 1-4 people are killed are a result of domestic violence, drugs, gangs, illegal aliens/ gangs/ drugs and inner city illegal activity and cultural rot. These kids are rarely well educated, rarely have a father in their life. The inner city/ african american youth are made fun of and called uncle toms or race traitors if they learn to speak proper English, get good grades, dont have tattos everywhere, dont have premature sex or even kids out of wedlock. The mother always comes out after they are shot or do the shooting claiming he is a great boy, never done nothing wrong, or was just getting his life turned around. When in actuality they have a wrap sheet an arms length long. How many you tube videos do we have with black youths doing flash mobs ransacking some store and never being arrested for it?

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  • ‘Even thieves pray for their own…I am calling you to pray for your enemies!’
    Our Crucified Master

    Mary, Mother of Jesus & our Mother
    You received the broken Body
    of your crucified Son
    taken down from the Cross
    & placed into Your arms.
    You closed His gaping wounds with Your hands;
    You bathed His Body with your tears
    & Your heart became His first sepulchre.
    Receive, O virtuous Queen
    our dead children & family
    & bring them before Your Son
    that all may know the Truth of His resurrection!
    amen, amen.

    God does not want to loose even one of His children.
    This boy also needs prayers.

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  • Blacque Jacques Shellacque

    If 2-5 of those priciples, teachers etc had had a CCW they may have been able to save or even deter these kids from going there.

    Slight problem – the majority of teachers/administrators are likely to be pussified lefties, frightened of even handling a firearm, let alone using it in an appropriate situation.

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  • #4, When will politicians find courage to address the root causes of societal problems and stop shredding the Constitution and scapegoating law abiding gun owners for the effects of their own failed Leftist policies?

  • bigkahuna

    My point is that there are many issues that are rarely discussed and too often liberals jump on the gun issue when there are many more important issues and things to consider and impliment.

    You start taking away our liberties and freedoms and soon its the one you care about most. We are losing them almost daily.

    Privacy rights, property rights, person decision rights( to buy or not health insurance), smoking in our own establishment, what you can eat or drink, what we can feed our kids, what we can drive, what we have to do to own a gun, what we can do with our property or a wetland and many more that seem to pop up.

  • Ella

    #4 – What does the left propose to do about armed illegals coming into this country through a very porous border that doesn’t get protected by Napolitano? You know, the ones we can’t even ask for a voter ID when they show up at the polls where they vote illegally?

  • Jawknee

    Yet again, this is proof of the failure of our mental health system. Thank you democrats. Thank you so much for making it harder to commit and treat these people. This blood is on YOUR HANDS! Not gun owners.

  • Ella

    #1 – You absolutely nailed it.

  • DomesticGoddess

    Note how the article describes the deceased mom as a “gun loving mom” and that she had drinking buddies. Talk about profiling.

  • Frankroy

    Spot on Bigkahuna

  • donh

    “Nancy told me he was burning himself with a lighter. In the ankles or arms or something,”

    He knew he was in HELL.

    It could also be a side effect of drugs….or whatever deep sleep hypnosis Adam may have received to program this sicko for a murder suicide mission…Why assume Adam wasn’t seeing a shrink ? The mom had big bucks to afford therapy. Who was his doctor ?

  • gastorgrab

    @ bigkahuna, #1

    While we have moved to ‘DEcentralize’ mental health care, liberal changes in government have moved towards ‘Centralized’ general welfare. (We controlling the disturbed people less, and controlling the normal people more.)

    The people who actually need government to plan out their lives for them, the mentally ill, get dumped on the streets (and make up nearly 40% of all homeless), and all the folks who can work BUT DONT WANT TO, get free ObamaPhones.

    With very few exceptions, ALL of the recent mass-shootings have involved mentally deranged individuals. If liberals want to control something, let them exert control over the people who are most likely to cause harm to themselves or others!

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  • bigkahuna

    Typical liberal policies.. Fix ( or claim to) whats not broken and make things that need fixing worse.

    Laws of unintended consequences are very prominent in liberal solutions as are restricytions of all our rights.

  • John Public

    Shoots Brah, you exactly spot on. In Oregon they are already trying to limit magazines to 10 rounds. Sounds like an idea that will be pushed further. Like the nuts that do evil things will obey that law, something like this will make law abiding folks criminals. Assault weapons are already banned, automatic weapons are assault weapons.

  • gastorgrab

    Gun Control is a huge F-ing distraction here!

    Liberals have the entire country on the defensive here against gun ownership when in reality THE STATE FAILED! The right should be demanding to know why if the mentally ill pose such a problem, and they are THE ONLY ONES who go on shooting rampages, why is ‘The State’ not directly addressing the problem????

    The shooters all drove cars to their separate places of destruction as well. Should we ban cars?

    By all rights, THE LEFT-WING SHOULD BE ON THE DEFENSIVE HERE. It was there promises of a “tolerant and evolved new society” that are not being realized. Normal people don’t gun down 6-year olds. The centrally-planned culture of the left does not account for motivations that are delusional, and that cannot be anticipated. Their simplistic explanations of “greater good” no longer apply to these case when good and evil are aspects of rational thought. A rabid dog isn’t good or evil. It’s just destructive. (Should we ban all dogs?)

    But all we hear now is “Guns are evil!”

  • gastorgrab

    I personally think that high capacity magazines make the world a safer place.

    Every time a psycho-killer attempts to use one, it jams up. Many lives are saved.

  • Texas_Treeroach

    Wait, wait, wait – let me get all of this straight:

    The mother had to pull him out of school for “whatever” reason?

    He looked the way he did because of Nature’s sense of humor?

    He had Asperger’s syndrome; and the parents didn’t know of the complete range of symptoms?

    Lacking social interaction, he played video games, coming-out-the-wah-zoo?

    Mom liked her weapons? But she didn’t think a gun-safe was important?

    Dad got to see him once-in-a-while, thanks to a generous divorce agreement?

    No family members could add-up the glaring danger signs screaming at them?

    What Could Go Wrong?!?

    However, there’s a perennial solution to all of this coming from the left, who simultaneously believes that stalking the child of a Michigan Governor is OK: BAN FIREARMS.

    I personally agree with one of the parents of the deceased kids, in Connecticut:

    I’ve not lost my faith in God; but I continually lose my faith in humanity.

  • gastorgrab

    Asperger’s Syndrome was just a cover story for the family. I don’t believe Adam Lanza ever had Asperger’s, or any other form of autism.

    It was their way to keep from scaring their neighbors

  • gastorgrab

    “It was like he was trying to feel something.”


    “Schizophrenia / Negative symptoms: Blunted affect (lack or decline in emotional response), alogia (lack or decline in speech), or avolition (lack or decline in motivation)”

  • Kathteach

    #1 bigkahuna – Awesome post. I’ve already shared it with others.

    Wonderful post/ Thanks “-)

  • Patty

    School shooter Adam Lanza likely on meds; labeled as having ‘personality disorder’

    Gun control? We need medication control!

    In mass shootings involving guns and mind-altering medications, politicians immediately seek to blame guns but never the medication. Nearly every mass shooting that has taken place in America over the last two decades has a link to psychiatric medication, and it appears today’s tragic event is headed in the same direction.

    According to ABC News, Adam Lanza, the alleged shooter, has been labeled as having “mental illness” and a “personality disorder.” These are precisely the words typically heard in a person who is being “treated” with mind-altering psychiatric drugs.

    One of the most common side effects of psychiatric drugs is violent outbursts and thoughts of suicide.

    Note: The shooter was originally mid-identified as Ryan Lanza but has now been corrected to Adam Lanza.

    The Columbine High School shooters were, of course, on psychiatric drugs at the time they shot their classmates in 1999. Suicidal tendencies and violent, destructive thoughts are some of the admitted behavioral side effects of mind-altering prescription medications.

    No gun can, by itself, shoot anyone. It must be triggered by a person who makes a decision to use it. And while people like NY Mayor Bloomberg are predictably trying to exploit the deaths of these children to call for guns to be stripped from all law abiding citizens who have done nothing wrong whatsoever, nobody calls for medication control.

    So, the doctors prescription but in truth, they have know fix and wish it will work. I feel medicines so altering did affect this young man. The guns help him to carry out the mind changing emotions that the medicine themselves brought on.

  • Patty

    Adam Lanza, believed responsible for the horrific massacre of 20 children and 6 adults yesterday was the son of a top psychological analyst working for the Central Intelligence Agency, who was assigned to a Defense Advanced Research Projects Agency (DARPA) project which developed the sub-hunting simulator video game “Dangerous Waters.”

    According to FSB analysts in this memorandum (Federal Security Services, FSB, Russia), Adam Lanza attacked the Sandy Hook primary education school in the Connecticut County of Fairfield, known as the “hedge fund ghetto” due to its being one of the wealthiest counties in the United States, where he killed school officials and an entire class of children.

    Russian intelligence experts believe this was an operation that was a part of a DARPA “experiment” being overseen by his mother Nancy Champion Lanza.

    Though initial US news reports claimed Nancy Champion Lanza was a teacher at the Sandy Hook school, this report states this information is not true, as confirmed by local school authorities, including Lillian Bittman, who served on the local school board until 2011, who stated, “No one has heard of her, teachers don’t know her.”

    Russian intelligence files on Nancy Champion Lanza, however, say she lived the majority of her life in and around what is known as the Merrimack Valley Region of Massachusetts and New Hampshire and that the weapons used in this massacre, said to be owned by her, are standard CIA issue.

    US news reports are further stating that her brother, James Champion, a retired Kingston, New Hampshire police officer, is currently being questioned by the FBI.

    In early 2009, this report continues, Nancy Champion Lanza relocated to Connecticut as the DARPA projects to which she was assigned have their headquarters at the US Naval Submarine Base New London in Groton.
    Important to note is that the FSB received an extensive file on CIA and DARPA video game projects from Iranian intelligence officials after the August, 2011 arrest of CIA agent Amir Mirza Hekmati.

  • Kathteach

    Gastrograb – I actually believe – from what I have discerned from “all that is out there at this moment” that this poor woman was devoted to a son who was clinically bipolar on a decent into schizophrenia.

    And she had no clue what to do with him.

    This essay from a mom struggling with a mentally ill 13 year old – written in response to the Sandy Hook shootings – is just heartbreaking.

    Title: I am Adam Lanza’s Mother

    I think this essay alone may inspire the right kind of conversation – once we realize these shooters are being shielded by loving mothers (where are the fathers?) – we just might coordinate a hospital oriented and not jail oriented response that will help them protect all of us from the monsters in their own homes.

    Caveat: Pretty sure this is not on the streamlined Obamacare Death Panel plan for keeping medical costs down (ROFL)

  • Kathteach

    Patty – what the hell are you talking about – again? Many on this blog just do not “get you”

  • Patty

    Connecticut school shooting: Adam Lanza’s mother was preparing for disaster
    The mother of the gunman who killed 20 children and seven adults in America’s worst school massacre, was a gun-proud “survivalist” preparing for economic collapse, it has emerged.

    Go to site to see pictures.

  • Patty

    ‘Wasn’t the Connecticut killer just doing what abortionists do every day?’ Shocking outburst by former SNL star sparks outrage

    Comedian turned politico Victoria Jackson said ‘this is what you get when you forget the Ten Commandments’
    The Facebook post – which has so far received more than 150 ‘likes’ – also quickly attracted angry comments

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  • Patty

    #28 December 16, 2012 at 7:46 pm
    Kathteach commented:

    Well, that is a statement that needs explanation, besides trying to be hurtful.

    If you are a teacher no wonder the education system is in trouble.

  • gastorgrab

    One of the ‘liberal’ benefits to putting the mentally ill on the streets was that it made all of society appear more violent. It could be used to justify the changes to American society that liberal promised would “make the world a better place”.

    Operation Fast and Furious was another example of this type of “ends justify the means” thinking. By racking up a huge body count in Mexico, liberals could justify their push towards gun control in the United States.

    While i’m not blaming any of the current group of liberals in particular, to them the current state of affairs IS the status quo, but I think that liberalism in general CAN be blamed. This was a disaster in the making. Liberals are like the fireman who commits arson so he can swoop in and save the day. And they don’t care who gets hurt.

    For the record, I don’t believe that Eric Harris or Dylan Klebold (Comumbine), from the article above, can be grouped with the likes of Loughner, Holmes, and Lanza. I highly doubt that the ‘mentally ill’ could have synchronized their delusions to the degree that the Columbine killers coordinated their attack on the school. They proved through their collaboration that they were capable of interacting with other human being on a rational basis. Those two WERE Evil.

  • JenBee

    The more we learn about Adam Lanza, the more we should understand that this has nothing at all to do with guns, and everything to do with untreated mental illness.

    Yet there Dems go, full steam ahead on a path to take away guns from sane, law-abiding citizens. Absurd, yet so predictable.

  • Patty

    Left Sank Connecticut Mental Health Bill That Might Have Stopped Massacre

    A troubling revelation has broken regarding a mental health bill recently defeated in Connecticut during this calendar year. Had it passed, that bill could have possibly taken Adam Lanza off the streets so he would not have been free to commit his heinous act on December 14.

    In February 2012, Connecticut Senate Bill 452 (SB452) was put forward to remedy the fact that Connecticut was one of less than ten states in the U.S. to lack an “assisted outpatient treatment” (AOT) law.

    But the bill was passed to Connecticut’s Joint Committee on Judiciary in March, where it quietly faded away because of opposition by those who viewed it as “egregious” and “outrageously discriminatory.”

    Had this law passed, it may have forced Adam Lanza to be treated for his alleged mental illness instead of allowing him to roam free, and ultimately to kill 26 persons and himself in a vindictive rage on Friday.

    Although there is some variation, the way these laws work in other states is simple: AOT laws preempt older statutes that only allow the mentally ill to be forcibly institutionalized for treatment if they’ve done harm to themselves or others. This is possible because AOT laws allow a state to institutionalize a mentally ill person for treatment if the state has reason to suspect such institutionalization will prevent the individual from doing harm to self or others. [………………..]

  • gastorgrab

    Gun control is just one instance in a long line of usurpations of individual rights where liberals attempt to hold all of society responsible for the failure of liberal policies. And those few deranged individuals who commit these terrible crimes only have the opportunity because of ‘Liberal Compassion’ (as the left has labeled it).

    The decentralization of mental health care was a mistake. It may have needed reforms, but the institutional system of mental health kept mass murder to a rarity before 1970. And how many of the mentally ill died homeless, from exposure to the elements, or from being victimized by the evil people in society, only because they had no other place to be?

    Sorry, but this massacre is just one failure among many, of Liberal “Progress”.

  • YourMaster

    why does adam lanza look like jim carrey from dumb and dumber?

  • bobbi

    Initial reports were that they found the semi-automatic Bushmastrr rifle outside in the car. Then they changed the report, starting with the coroner, who said all the kids had been murdered with the rifle. So, someone is changing the story. Can we trust the info? Doubt it.

  • well now

    Does CT. have the 72 hour involuntary hospitization law? You used to be able to sign someone into a mental ward for 72 hours if you felt they were a danger to themselves or others. Did the liberals do away with it? If not, why did’nt she sign him in?

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  • Chris W.

    I don’t understand. Why didn’t she have him committed for observation?

  • g

    Hey Nancy what was your first clue? Is it just me or does Lanza look like a complete nutcase? In the past people used observation to determine if others had problems that needed tending to. Now they are not problems they are issues. So while Nancy was away crying into her beer and dad was away making money so he didn’t have to deal with the crazy sh-t at home, kid was alone planning his next self-mutilation tactic to get somebody’s, ANYBODY’s attention. And when nobody gave a flipping yahoo, he went ballistic. Now he has everyone’s attention and a fitting “I told you I was sick” epitaph.

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  • Tifanny

    On the radio I heard this guy say that Nancy Lanza had an “unhealthy” relation with her son. And that she didn’t let him see other girls. Was he implying incest?

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